This comes as a huge topic to me and it hits home in many ways. Whenever I have been asked by a female spanker at a party or otherwise what kind of spanking I would like, I reply with the term, therapeutic. Not everyone seems to know what this is and I am not even sure that I do completely. It is different for everyone just like love can mean different things for different people. As a lot of you have read previously on here about my spanking with Stephanie Locke at the Shadow Lane party back in March, that was a therapeutic experience for me in the way that I was just spanked and let to go into my head, escape, and breath. Yes that is one form of therapeutic spanking I quite enjoy, another is something more typical to what you might call talk therapy, but when it doesn’t seem to work, resorting to spanking to help motivate and solve problems, even concerning to love, loss, and nurturance. A lot of of spankos as bottoms I have noticed are almost looking for a care giver when we look for a spanker. We are searching for parenting that we felt was never there or was incomplete. We seek nurturance and guidance. Discipline is a form of nurture and guidance if done in a loving and controlled way. I by no means support spanking children, so don’t take this that way, but I mean for adult consensual play, this can be what the meaning behind a spanking is. For me, what can bring me to tears is that the person spanking me cares so deeply for me and they are acting motherly, not angry, but strict and caring at the same time. They are soothing me and telling me it will be ok and that I am worth something. A lot of you already know that I have struggled my whole life with clinical depression as I have blogged about it before. I also have a range of other issues that I work on daily. I see a therapist and though she cannot spank me, as that is not moral and not what it is about with her, sometimes I seek that extra spanking therapy elsewhere such as parties and in private play.
In a recent scene shot with Clare Fonda, I decided to let loose a little and explore this idea more on camera. I had wanted to shoot this kind of scene for awhile and had talked with Clare about it weeks prior to it. I though that this would also make a good interview for her Spanked Sweeties site to speak to the members a little more in depth about this idea and act out a fantasy scenerio of my actual therapist spanking me. (By the way, I did allude to wanting my real therapist to spank me and you can also hear about that in the interview) The video mimics an actual therapy session with the couch and me not really doing what I am supposed, to which in reality are the real issues I work on, you can hear about them in the video. All for the issues are not talked about on camera, but the ones I felt comfortable sharing were. Clare spanks me as a loving, maternal, warm, therapist, who has my best interest in her heart and wants me to be healthy and feel better.
This scene premiers today on Spanked Sweeties and is called Sarah’s therapy spanking
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